Today I have a service call some distance from where I generally work, so I am sitting in a quaint little, non-chain coffee shop on an active main street. The atmosphere is quieter then my usual purveyor with only the muted sound of a small TV reporting the day's news. There are eight or nine people, most appearing to be retired, seated in chairs drinking coffee; many eating muffins or bagels. The latte’s have a very strong coffee flavor and are served at a higher temperature than my regular establishment. Most people seem to know one another and they often exchange greetings and or an occasional barb or two. Some discuss the impending snow storm and the notorious inaccuracy of New England forecasters. I hope it is not extremely cold tonight as I still have no hardtop on the jeep I plow with.
Last night we had drill and I sat down with the CO in attempt to resolve our issues. Unfortunately the meeting did not go well and I think we are heading for divorce.
Now I may need to find another interest B and I can pursue together. He and I will both pick three options to consider. I will likely choose Tae Kwon Do, filmmaking and writing. I look forward to seeing B's choices. I am also considering starting a new unit without the CO but I would be surprised if I went in that direction.
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Hi there,
Just found your blog...I was/am having a horrible day due to the existence of my fifteen year old son. The only positive thing he has going for him right now is his basketball team and he just called me from his game to say he had been kicked off of the team (he has a "slight" problem with his temper). Feeling miserable, with the latest in a series of negative developments in his life, I turned to the internet for support. Can't remember what I googled, but it brought me to your blog (specifically an entry titled "raising teens"). It was just enough for today to know that I am not alone. It may not be enough tomorrow, but you have helped me survive one more day, so thanks. I don't think there is a truer adage than 'misery loves company.' Anyways, I've also been struggling lately with depression. With me, I don't think it is a chemical thing, more of a my life generally sucks right now thing. I'm going to make myself a cup of coffee and read through some of your archives. Best of luck with everything,
Johanna
Johanna,
Thanks for stopping by. It sounds like we struggle with similar issues. My 15 year old is a fathers dream (for the most part) but my 17 year old challenges me constantly. Just today he flipped out on me because my wife wanted the four of us to take a few moments to snap a picture for our Christmas card. I can generally brush off his disrespect\selfishness but when I am struggling emotionally it hits me hard.
The best thing I have done for my kids is to find ways to spend time with my sons doing things we enjoy such as camping, fishing and wake boarding. This balances out all the negative stress that builds over time.
Do you have a blog? I have found that "blogging" has helped me to decrease the intensity of my depression; (That and some new meds that I reluctantly take)
Good luck!
PS - Call the coach of the team and see if you can't work something out. Any coach worth his salt will recognize the value of team sports for a boy like your son.
Dirk
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