It is amazing the impact that A has had on D and me. Historically, when D was mad, whether at me or otherwise, I got mad back at her, usually raising the intensity and often storming away from her. In my desire to maintain the peace and keep A in our life, I have improved my listening skills, become more empathetic and learned to get D to talk about why she is upset. Sometimes it is about me, sometimes it is about the triangle, but it is often just simple solvable issues that we can talk through.
A's mom has refused to sign the paperwork for her to sign up early so she will likely be in our lives till September. She is really pissed at her Mom now and I hate watching her act that way. I feel a strong desire to begin pulling away from her but I am resisting it. I remain hopeful that she will change her mind or she will be unable to enlist. I met with her and her therapist yesterday and they both agreed to probe more deeply into the underlying motivations behind her decision. Whenever A talks about enlisting I become extremely anxious. I know she is excited about becoming a Marine, but listening to her talk about it just crushes me emotional. I am trying to find a balance but it has not been easy.
D and I had been talking about adopting or foster care but this new
challenge with A has completely soured me to that idea. Perhaps it is
time to look forward to becoming a Grandfather and let go of active
parenting.
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