Pig-headed

According to Merriam Dictionary the definition of pig-headed is "willfully or perversely unyielding : obstinate. There are certain things that I can be pig-headed about; mostly having to do with people. The neighbors that border me on the west pissed me off when they first moved in about four years ago and I have not spoken to them since. She is a nutcase and he was unwilling to acknowledge the egregiousness of an offense she committed against me. It was all pretty stupid but I had extended a helping hand when they moved into their house and felt completely betrayed.

I am more concerned about my relationship with the neighbors that filed charges against J for entering their house without permission. I understand that they thought he needed some tough love, but their disregard for my prediction that the consequences of their actions would drastically exceed the crime leaves me full of anger and resentment. I am not worried about this particular relationship; we were never really close friends. I am more concerned about my inability to approach this situation in a calm, rational and forgiving manner recognizing that they were probably trying to do what was right. I am trying to live my life in the Buddhist "right" way and this is a complete violation of that philosophy.