Tuesday, April 29, 2008

No Kids

B made it to France safely and I miss him already. He sent an email to us in which he said he missed us :-( I have been corresponding with his host family and they seem very nice. I am sure he will have a wonderful time. D and I are getting a taste of life without kids and while I like the freedom I also miss the pitter patter of size 13 Nikes running down the hall. J is still home with us but he is generally not home.

Last week I spoke to the Executive Director of a local adolescent home. We discussed my interest in volunteering at the group home and after learning about my history of working with kids she was very enthusiastic about the idea. I sorely miss working with the cadet group and am very excited at the prospect of working with troubled kids. I can’t wait to get started!

Over the past few years, I have been watching from the sidelines as my neighbor (H) commits suicide by abusing alcohol and drugs. I rarely gave his situation more than a passing thought telling myself that he was a "big boy" and could take care of himself. Last night, for no apparent reason, I decided I would try to help him. I plan to contact AA and I hope to rally some additional support for my cause. I was told that his insurance company would pay for a detox program but he had to demonstrate a commitment to stay sober. H is clearly depressed and has given up all desire to live. I know what that feels like and if it wasn't for my wife I would likely be dead. I don't know if I can help H but it is worth a try

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

Most people eat a lot when they get depressed, not me. I can barely get any food down for days and I get weak feeling. It makes my depression even worse. On top of the I am not able to sleep well so it's a vicious circle of events all at one time. It's very overwhelming. Since you have done so well during the difficult time, I was going to ask you if you have any of the same problems.
You're doing so well, that is great, it makes life all the more worth living

Dirk said...

Like many people, I yearn for the typical comfort foods such as cookies, chocolate and ice cream. Sleep is always a problem when I am depressed. Life is sooooo much better when you feel good.

GaP said...

Dirk...I hope your altruism bears some fruit. It would be nice if all it took to save the guy was someone else giving a damn. Just be careful not to get sucked into a black hole of despair. A person has to WANT to BE helped. GaP