Thursday, July 23, 2009

Life is good

I have been med-free for about a month now and I am doing very well. Other than a bit of anxiety and irritability, I am leading a rather "normal" life. J is doing ok and has completed most of his community service. One of our neighbors agreed not to press charges against J so we have one burgalry charge left to deal with. B is enjoying his summer and hangs out with his friends most of the time. D seems content and we have been spending a fair amount of time together. She has also joined the cadet group so we spend time on related activities.

Next week I am on vacation in at the lake in Maine. I am hoping for good weather.

Friday, July 10, 2009

Cranking along

Today I feel irritable but very motivated. I worked into the early hours of the morning but even with four hours of sleep, I still have lots of energy.

I just had a very unpleasant encounter with an insurance adjuster who wrote up an estimate to repair the damage to my little sports car that was $2000 less than the one I got from the body shop. WTF!

J continues to accumulate community service hours and if he continues at this rate he will at least have a reasonable effort to report to the judge when he is called to do so. He still has one felony charge to deal with and a possible second felony charge if he does not pay my neighbor for the items that he stole.

Wednesday, July 8, 2009

Where is Clickerville?

“I feel like I've been in a coma for about twenty years. And I'm just now waking up.” (Lester Burnham, American Beauty). All my senses are heightened ( especially libido :) and even the smallest things give me pleasure. However, like Randle Patrick McMurphy (One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest), I fully expect my current blissful emotional state to pass; but I am ok with that. I will revel in the moment. I am suddenly very passionate about everything I do. And the coffee; OMG, it tastes so good and the caffeine buzz is extra strong. I do feel very irritable at times, especially at home, but I keep reminding myself that if I constantly bitch and obsess over the small things, I will drive everyone around me nuts and will be back on meds that much sooner.

One other note; I love D and will never do anything that could destroy what we have built over the past 25 years. Besides, I recognize the meaningless nature of the three minutes of pleasure I would trade for a life of regret. It comes with maturity and emergence from the cave.

Monday, July 6, 2009

Med-free zone

Today I am in a fabulous mood! We finally got some great weather and today is beautiful. I discontinued all my meds last week and am in that slightly manic post-med phase of the emotional roller coaster that is my life. Friday I went out with some kids from the adolescent home and a new staff member, L. We had a great time and I really enjoyed hanging out with the kids again. I have not been to the home in over a month. I had not spent any time with L previously and we seem to have an interesting (in a good way as long as we maintain our boundaries) connection. I really enjoyed talking with her and we have a lot in common even though I am probably more than 20 years her elder. I expect to be writing more about her in the future.

J is now out of the house and living on his own. I had to boot him out because I discovered he had stolen from another neighbor. He seems to be doing ok but he will likely spend some time in jail in the very near future. All I can do is watch him douse himself in gasoline hoping that he does not ultimately burn to death.

Thursday, July 2, 2009

Time to fly on his own

Letter to my neighbors…

I am writing to inform you of a situation in our neighborhood involving J. I apologize for not being more specific about, and taking responsibility for, the events in question, but for legal reasons I cannot comment on the guilt or innocence of my son. J was arrested and charged with burglary for entering (without the owner’s permission) a house located on our street. Because of this, I recommend that you secure your house and any outbuildings when you are away from home. D and I are completely mortified and very, very sorry that you would be made to feel uncomfortable as a result of the alleged actions of my son. We also apologize for not contacting you earlier about this situation, but we were under the impression that someone on our street had already alerted all the residents living on the street.

On July 1st, D and I told J that he could no longer live in our house. He is also not allowed to come to our house unless we are home. If you see J on our street and we are not home, please call me or D.

Please do not hesitate to contact D or myself with any questions. However, please understand that for legal reasons, we are limited in what we can say. Once the legal issues have run their course we will do everything in our power to address any concerns you may have related to anything that J may have done.